Love the Mother of Your Children

One of the best gifts a father can give to his children is to love their mother.  Fathers loving and treating the woman in your life with kindness and with respect is a habit.  Just like any habit, the more you do it, the easier it is.  Unfortunately, the reverse is also true.  

It is easy to fall into a negative pattern of criticism and blame.  The world is not perfect, neither is your wife.  You can focus on the good things about her or the one or two things that you don’t like.  I have learned the hard way that anything critical I say will be taken to heart by my wife.  She values my opinion.  I don’t completely understand why, but I have learned that my comments validate her value. Do I want to validate her value?  Yes, I do, because I value her.  She is a blessing to my life and the lives of my children.  

Your children are paying attention to your actions and words. This is true even if you are divorced from your spouse.  It is true for boys and girls.  For boys, you are teaching them how to treat women.  You are teaching them how to have happy, healthy relationships and lives.  For girls, you are teaching them how to expect to be treated.  If you mistreat their mother, they will learn that this is normal and will accept mistreatment from the men in their lives.  If you love their mother, they will not choose mates that abuse and disrespect them.

Also, see Mother’s Day is Coming.

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